Swingers Club FAQs – Dublin

Got questions? We’ve got answers.

Curious? You’re not the only one. We know stepping into something new can bring a lot of questions — and we’re here to answer them. 

From what to expect on your first night to how our community works, you’ll find it all here. Think of this as your guide to feeling comfortable, confident, and ready for unforgettable experiences.

First Time at a Swingers Club

What happens at a swingers club?

A swingers club is a social environment where open-minded adults meet, connect, and explore at their own pace. There is no pressure to participate—many guests come just to socialise and observe.

Do I have to take part in anything?

No. Everything is based on consent. You can simply enjoy the atmosphere, meet people, and leave whenever you like.

I’ve never been to a swingers party, will I feel out of place?

Not at all. Many of our guests are first-timers. You set your own pace — some people come just to soak up the atmosphere and meet others before deciding to play. There’s never any pressure.

Is a swingers club safe?

Yes. At EJ’s Club, safety, consent, and respect are our top priorities. All guests are verified and expected to follow clear rules and guidelines.

What if it’s my first time?

Many of our guests are first-timers. You’re welcome to take things at your own pace and explore only what you feel comfortable with.

About the Parties

Do I have to play?

Absolutely not. Consent is everything at EJ’s Club. You can enjoy just watching, chat, dance, or dive right in, it’s entirely up to you.

How do we set boundaries?

Have an open conversation about what you are comfortable with, e.g. kissing, oral, intercourse, watching, playing with other couples or singles and what is off limits.

Can I bring my own Alcohol?

Yes, you can but take it easy and don’t get wasted.  You might want to drink if you’re nervous, but getting sloppy drunk (or otherwise under the influence) at a swingers parties does not make for a good time. You want to be in control of your faculties in order to be able to consent with what’s going on around you. Likewise—and this should hopefully go without saying—don’t hook up with people who are clearly wasted, even if they are initiating play with you. When we host parties, we make sure to have one completely sober person watching over the rooms

Can we/I leave at any time?

Absolutely, if at any time you need or want to go, that’s not a problem. Just let us know that you want to go and we will let you out.

Is sex guaranteed?

That’s a definite NO. Please don’t attend if you think you’ll be fucked by all the people attending

How do I advocate for myself?

All of the above rules about being considerate of others also apply to how other people treat you.  As in any other space, you are not obligated to be sexual. If someone makes you uncomfortable, tell the host or another attendee. You have the right to stop sex at any point. You don’t have to explain your reasons, even to yourself, if you’re just not feeling something. There can be internal pressure to pretend to be chill or game for things you’re not interested in for the sake of the party. Even the wildest, most outgoing seeming people have their limits.

Is there Bi-Play?

We say yes to girls but no to bi-boys. Ours are Swingers parties and this is not a party where bi-play for men can be explored.  There are plenty of other clubs in Ireland where this is provided for.

 

What Happens after the Party?

For a couple in particular, this can be the hottest and most memorable part of the experience. Couples who enjoy parties will go home and have amazing sex together and reclaim each other!  Singles will have such an adrenalin rush and will want to experience it over and over again.  One thing is for sure, you will not forget it!  Always be assured that discretion is key to success and getting to experience it all over again, so remember that if you happen to bump into someone from the party again!

 

Are the parties safe and discreet?

Yes. Discretion and respect are at the heart of our community. No phones or photos are allowed in play areas, and everyone is expected to treat one another with care.

What should I wear?

Each party has its own theme, and we love when guests dress up to match. Think sexy, stylish, and fun, but always something you feel confident and comfortable in. No pressure!

What type of locations are used for Parties?

We only use hotels, apartments and private houses. They will have multiple rooms for play but will not have a dance floor or very loud music.  We choose locations that are central with parking and that are also private.

 

Where can I leave my stuff whilst at a party?

There are no lockers or secured rooms as we use private apartments, houses and hotels. We recommend bringing a bag that you can put your stuff into and this can be left in the living room area for everyone to keep an eye on.  We don’t recommend bringing anything of value as we accept no liability for loss or damage.  Please ensure to take all your belongings when leaving as we don’t have a lost and found as garden shed is already full with knickers, shoes, light sabres and statoscopes!!

 

Do I have to use Condoms?

This question only has one answer and that’s a YES. If at any time you try to fuck without using a condom with someone who isn’t your partner then you will be asked to leave and you’ll never attend another swingers party

 

What should I do or not do at a party?

Get permission before touching anyone, even in a “friendly” way. A quick, flirty, “Can I touch you here?” is the way to go (and can be really hot, depending on how you say it). Many clubs have an “ask once, and only once” policy.  People can obviously come up to you and ask if you want to have sex.  This is an environment where it’s OK to do that. If somebody says no, EJ’s rules are that you cannot ask again.

 

Can I take Photos or Videos, even for use on my own Fab Profile?

EJ’s has strict rules about cameras, they are simply not allowed and the taking pictures or videos will get you kicked out, if not permanently banned. As hosts, we are happy to take pictures or videos for you with the total consent of all involved.  They will be sent on to you the next day once we confirm everyone’s consent.

 

Attending and Registration

Do I need to be a member to attend?

Not always. Our parties are open to newcomers, while we often give priority to members. Joining our community is the best way to stay in the loop.

How do I join?

The easiest way is to get in touch directly with us. We will make sure to answer all your questions and introduce you to the community.

Can I come alone, or do I need a partner?

Both singles and couples are welcome. Our events are designed to create a balanced, respectful atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable.

When do I find out where the venue for the Party is?

We will tell you the day before the party. A rough location will be told if you ask.

Why to I have to show ID to Join?

This is normal in European clubs. This is also our standard for safety and security of all those attending

Will I know who is on the guest list prior to a Party?

Absolutely not, you wouldn’t know who was in a club in the UK or Europe before you go there, so we are no different

Rules & Etiquette

What are the main rules?

Respect, consent, and discretion are essential. Always ask before engaging with others, and respect boundaries at all times. For more information about the rules and guidelines visit our Party Rules Page